How To Get Over Your Ex

How To Get Over Your Ex

At least once in our lives we will experience a heartbreak (if not, you are very lucky!).

This tends to be from a boyfriend or girlfriend, which then turns them into your ex.

Getting over your ex is pretty simple theoretically. However practically it is very difficult, especially if this is the first time you are trying to get over an ex. We are human, we have emotions and we all want to be loved (well I hope!)

Below are some of my tips for getting over an ex.

No contact

This rule is very important to get over your ex. Out of sight out of mind. Now, when you have established that the relationship is over, you must eliminate any contact with them. Not just speaking with them, but memories of them. Delete pictures, videos, memories, get rid of gifts, clothing etc. Unfollow them on all social media platforms, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Path, Tumblr, Pinterest, I can go on and on. This will help you move on with a clear mind. You cannot go and stalk your ex on Facebook to see what pictures they have been tagged on or what they are ranting about on Twitter. You have to accept that the relationship is over and it is over for a reason. Once you accept that, better things will come your way. You had a life before you started a relationship with your ex and you will have a life after them. One more thing, don’t try to get any stuff that they might have of yours, this leads to conversations such as “Hey I left one sock at your apartment, can I get it back?” No


Talking sometimes helps. It is better to get things off your chest. But be sure not to bore your friends/family with the details over and over again. It also gives you a chance to hear things from someone else’s point of view, as long as they are level headed. If you feel you have no one to talk to, you can always write a letter to your ex stating how you feel and your emotions, but never post it or send it to them. This is for you to get your feelings out. If you need to cry, cry. Just don’t hold back.

Keep busy

Meet up with your friends or spend time with your family. Go to the gym, pick up a hobby, re-arrange the furniture, do that thing you have always wanted to do, make yourself a better person. This could be a chance for you to reinvent yourself. The main thing is to keep busy busy busy. When you are busy it will stop you from thinking about your ex and you will look forward to little things that make you happy. However don’t keep busy trying to show your ex you have a life after them, keep busy for yourself. This is your time to be selfish.

No rebounds

Now, there is the saying that to get over someone you must get under someone else. I don’t agree with this, although it may work for some. I believe that during a breakup you really need to spend time by yourself and try not to find a love lost from someone else. It may seem the right thing at the time to do short term, but long term you will end up back at square one. Really take your time to heal your heart. Put yourself first. Fall in love with yourself if you haven’t already. After all you are going to spend the rest of your life with yourself.

Look forward to the future

Finally look forward to the time you have ahead. Just because it didn’t work out with your ex doesn’t mean you will not find love again. Surround yourself with people who love you and want the best for you. Concentrate on your passions and being the person you would like to meet. There are 7.3 billion people and counting on this earth. Do not let one person that is in your past dictate your future. The past belongs in the past. Don’t look back.
These simple tips will help getting over your ex less painful. It won’t be easy, but with time you will be back to yourself!

And remember:

“No relationship is ever a waste of your time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you didn’t want”

Whitney Q

The Q Is Vital

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